Committed or tentative?
How to know much? How to have time for many things? How to be a pro at various activities at the same time? Why some people have no time for anything they've been dreaming about and achieve very modest results with no progress from year to year? Why at the same time others find time for all new things they really want and are very efficient at their accomplishments? I think the answer is about Goal settings.
Goals are not amorphous wishes. There is a tiny trait distinguishing a goal from a wish - your commitment. When you pick up a wish from the dreams pool and decide you want to turn it to reality - you commit to it. Until you committed to a goal it lives in the dream pool and has no chance to get realized. Until you make a commitment your dream lives its own life and you do yours. Your commitment is a give birth of your dream in this world, in reality. People that don't make any commitment live in a tentative, passive mode. They may have numerous dreams but they don't associate their life with the dreams. They don't give a chance to a dream to become reality. Even if they spontaneously decide to accomplish some of the wishes without a commitment such attempts lead only to still-born dream realization.
Committed living has accomplishments, purpose, and excitement. Tentative living is destroying, it begets critical and negative perception, and undermines self-confidence. Zig Ziglar cites on his lectures Alfred Smith: "commitment is essential for victory in an individual's life". I think each one has to set up goals to win, to make small victories that then will lead to bigger victories. The atmosphere of goal-achievements is charming. The feeling of accomplishments bewitches. Put yourself to a challenge. Pick up a dream from a wish flock and make it part of reality.
Don't start with something grandiose if you don't have a habit of discipline and self-control. Start with small but it has still be a challenge. Find something making you passionate about it. It can be anything from running every day some miles or devoting permanent time for learning something new or spending consistently some time for spiritual development or a million of other things. The key thing here is consistency. Pick up an interval for your challenge. Don't start with "from today forever" swear. Start with a limited commitment. It's a bit tricky to set up a goal that is challenging and feasible at the same time but on the way you'll cultivate a habit to make right estimation for you.
Don't be frustrated if you slip on the way. It may (and will) happen. Carefully analyze the reason but don't let it transform to a regular practice. Don't give up your goals while they're in the living period. You commit to yourself or, at first to yourself, and the biggest challenge in the committed living is to grow a respectful "commitment history". Track all your commitments as credit bureaus track your credit history. Every negative act is logged and affects your score. The same is with your commitments. Every accomplished commitment your score - your self-reliance - that let you take bigger "loans": set up and commit to more challenging and more long-term goals.



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